I find this information very helpful for people in class to understand just how we resist changes in our lives.
How do we come from a state of stress and resistance to one of relaxation and allowance?
Have you ever started a project with great enthusiasm and then lost your way somewhere in the middle?
That is resistance! Resistance is insidious.
It is one of the main things that stop us from having, doing, and being what we want in life.
We resist, in fact, even the things we really like, the things we care about.
Sometimes you can’t even get yourself to go to the movies when you want to go because resistance comes up.
If someone tells you to do something, that is a sure fired way resistance is going to come up even if you want to do it.
I remember as a child growing up, I used to hate it when my mother would tell me to do something that I wanted to do, because then I didn’t want to do it any more.
When someone tells me that I should do something, or I have to do something, I feel… “No way!, Don’t’ tell me what to do!”
The same thing happens when we tell ourselves what we have to do. If I say to myself, I have to stop smoking, “what happens?” Oh! Yeah?
Or you better not eat this anymore – you may even eat more.
That is just the nature of the mind It just doesn’t like being told what to do.
So resistance is operating all the time because we live in a sea of “should’s” and “have to’s” and “must do’s” and imperatives.
Any time there is an imperative it stirs up resistance.
Resistance manifests in many different ways, some subtle, such as forgetting things that are important to you.
Or you’ll find yourself gradually moving away from things that are really helpful.
Does that sound familiar?
You’re doing great and you’re really enjoying something: you think it’s the best thing since sliced bread, and then 3 months later your’ back to your old ways and you’re being hard on yourself about it.
What’s happened … you have hit resistance!
Resistance happens all the time in life.
Sometimes, it’s extreme, such as not wanting to get out of bed in the morning.
Any time you feel like you have to, or you should do something, or you must do it, you are hitting resistance.
This is because the “should” creates opposing forces equal to or greater than the force that you’re exerting when you’re trying to do something about it. Allow yourself to start noticing where resistance manifests in your life and rather than resisting it …allow yourself to do something about it!